Here’s a list of different rules of etiquette written over 100 years ago. You will find some of the suggestions a bit archaic and random but the advice is still strikingly resonant. This list manages to cover many gaps in the etiquette which have transformed society into a veritable Swiss cheese of incivility. If these suggestions are put into practice you will ,definitely, set yourself apart from other knuckleheads out there trying to land a job or catch the eye of a good looking girl. Actually, the advice in this list of don’ts should be followed seriously by all those trying their luck in social networking to make their efforts yield the desired results.

Here’s a list to guide you in becoming a likeable networking professional, a better person and a more refined gentlemen or women:

  1. Never exaggerate
  2. Never point at another
  3. Never betray a confidence
  4. Never leave home with unkind words
  5. Never neglect to call upon your friends
  6. Never laugh at the misfortunes of others
  7. Never give a promise that you do not fulfill
  8. Never send a present, hoping for one in return
  9. Never speak much of your own performances
  10. Never fail to be punctual at the time appointed
  11. Never make yourself the hero of your own story
  12. Never pick the teeth or clean the nails in company
  13. Never fail to give a polite answer to a civil question
  14. Never question a child about family matters
  15. Never present a gift saying that it is of no use to yourself
  16. Never read letters which you may find addressed to others
  17. Never fail, if a gentleman, of being civil and polite to ladies
  18. Never call attention to the features or form of anyone present
  19. Never refer to a gift you have made, or favor you have rendered
  20. Never associate with bad company. Have good company, or none
  21. Never look over the shoulder of another who is reading or writing
  22. Never appear to notice a scar, deformity, or defect of anyone present
  23. Never arrest the attention of an acquaintance by touch. Speak to him
  24. Never punish your child for a fault to which you are addicted yourself
  25. Never answer questions in general company that have been put to others
  26. Never, when traveling abroad, be over boastful in praise of your own country
  27. Never call a new acquaintance by their first name unless requested
  28. Never lend an article you have borrowed, unless you have permission to do so
  29. Never attempt to draw the attention of the company constantly upon yourself
  30. Never exhibit anger, impatience or excitement, when an accident happens
  31. Never pass between two persons who are talking together, without an apology
  32. Never enter a room noisily; never fail to close the door after you, and never slam it
  33. Never forget that, if you are faithful in a few things, you may be ruler over many
  34. Never exhibit too great familiarity with the new acquaintance, you may give offense
  35. Never will a gentleman allude to conquests which he may have made with ladies
  36. Never be guilty of the contemptible meanness of opening a private letter addressed to another
  37. Never fail to offer the easiest and best seat in the room to an invalid, an elderly person, or a lady
  38. Never neglect to perform the commission which the friend entrusted to you
  39. Never send your guest, who is accustomed to a warm room, off into a cold, damp, spare bed, to sleep
  40. Never enter a room filled with people, without a slight bow to the general company when first entering
  41. Never fail to answer an invitation, either personally or by letter, within a week after the invitation is received
  42. Never accept of favors and hospitality without rendering an exchange of civilities when opportunity offers
  43. Never cross the leg and put one foot in the street-car, or places where it will trouble others when passing by
  44. Never fail to tell the truth if truthful, you get your reward. You will get your punishment if you deceive
  45. Never borrow money and neglect to pay. If you do, you will soon be known as a person of no business integrity
  46. Never fail to say kind and encouraging words to those whom you meet in distress. Your kindness may lift them out of their despair
  47. Never refuse to receive an apology. You may not receive friendship, but courtesy will require, when a apology is offered, that you accept it
  48. Never examine the cards in the card-basket. While they may be exposed in the drawing room, you are not expected to turn them over unless invited to do so
  49. Never, when walking arm in arm with a lady, be continually changing and going to the other side, because of change of corners It shows too much attention to form
  50. Never attempt to convey the impression that you are a genius, by imitating the faults of distinguished men . Because certain great men were poor penmen, wore long hair, or had other peculiarities, it does not follow that you will be great by imitating their eccentricities.
  51. I wish you a happy life ahead!

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